Divine Toughts

David-Intimacy, the Power of Leadership (2)

​Part 2 – Entering the Calling, a Life Process in Wilderness.

Inspirasi tulisan lanjutan ini datang saat mengikuti acara rohani di villa gereja pada minggu ke-2 Februari 2017. Perikop kemenangan besar raja Daud atas bangsa Filistin dengan ‘cara yg tidak biasa’ merupakan hasil dari keintiman dengan TUHAN sehingga petunjuk detail didapat dan Daud mengeksekusi strategi tersebut dengan tepat (2Sam 5:17-25). Kemenangan besar itu adalah poin penting untuk mengokohkan Daud yg baru saja dilantik menjadi raja Israel.

Selama lebih dari 10 tahun sejak diurapi, Daud menantikan penggenapan dirinya menjadi raja Israel. Sebagian besar dari masa penantian itu dilewatkan di antara gunung batu dan padang belantara (tergambar eksplisit pd kitab Mazmur). Pada masa ‘kesesakan’ ini banyak orang bergabung dengan dia. Pada awalnya sebagian besar di antara mereka adalah orang-orang yg bermasalah (1Sam 22:1-2). Menghadapi berbagai kesukaran di belantara, jumlah pengikutnya semakin bertambah. Pada saat tertentu besarnya jumlah pengikut berbanding lurus dengan besarnya beban yg dipikul. Daud sempat melakukan kesalahan di Ziklag yg hampir membuatnya terbunuh oleh kemarahan orang-orang yg dipimpinnya. Namun karena respon yg tepat Tuhan memulihkan keadaan mereka semua setelah peristiwa itu (1Sam 29-30).

Sebagai catatan khusus, para pengikut Daud yg setia sejak di gua Adulam sampai ia menjadi raja Yehuda adalah saksi dari segala kelemahan dan keberhasilan Daud. Seiring berjalannya waktu, para pengikutnya berubah dari kumpulan pecundang menjadi para pahlawan yg gagah perkasa (2Sam 23). Mereka cukup gila untuk percaya pada Daud bahwa untuk menghadapi musuh yg sama, bangsa Filistin, dibutuhkan 2 strategi berbeda dan yg terakhir ‘tidak biasa’ (menunggu pohon kertau berbunyi).

Saya tidak tau apakah ia seorang yg pandai berorasi dan menghipnotis penonton seperti aktor Mel Gibson di film BraveHeart. Namun secuplik cerita tentang dirinya yg sempat kehausan dan disertai pengorbanan beberapa dari mereka utk memuaskan rasa dahaga itu menyiratkan makna hubungan mereka yg tidak biasa. Mereka bergiat memenuhi gumaman Daud dengan rela meresikokan nyawa (2Sam 23:13-18). Pesona kepemimpinan Daud telah memikat bukan hanya pecundang, namun beberapa pahlawan dari pihak Saul dan bangsa di luar Israel untuk mengabdi pada Daud. Yg paling tragis adalah Uria dari bangsa Het (musuh Israel). Ia begitu menghormati Daud dan meneladani rajanya itu dengan lebih suka menghabiskan masa cuti di kemah tentara (2Sam 11:9-11).

Tinggal di dalam hadirat Tuhan memampukan Daud melewati berbagai tantangan hidup.

Keintiman dengan Tuhan membuatnya sadar bahwa kemenangan sejati ada di pihak Tuhan dan bahwa IA menyediakan cara-strategi-sumber daya-sahabat dalam menggenapi rencanaNya.

Kehidupan Daud yg menghargai rekan kerja seperti mengasihi nyawanya sendiri menyebabkan hal yg sama dilakukan oleh mereka terhadap Daud.

Lesson Learned:

1. Life process filtering (refine) the good side of ourself for both leader & followers.

2. Life process set some preparation before our character & resource capasity be ready to gain the maximum success.

3. Life process will showing what is the true meaning of loyalty trough sacrifices.

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Divine Toughts

​David – Intimacy, the Power of Leadership (1)

Part 1 – Recieve the Calling, a new Life Direction.

Inspirasi tulisan ini datang di pagi hari, saat mandi dan merenungkan apa kunci keberhasilan seorang Daud menjadi raja yang diakui oleh TUHAN dan manusia (1 Sam 13:14; KisPR 13:22; bangsa Israel memakai lambang bintang Daud sampai sekarang).

Khusus si gembala kambing-domba ini, ia mendapat panggilan (dipilih TUHAN) menjadi raja Israel untuk menggantikan Saul, raja pertama Israel (1Sam 8-10). Adapun Saul, secara fisik paling memenuhi syarat menjadi seorang raja (1Sam 10:22-24). Proses hidup Daud untuk menjadi pemimpin bukanlah hal mudah dan membutuhkan pengorbanan yang besar. Statusnya sebagai buronan negara, pelarian selama lebih dari 1 dekade merupakan persiapan tersendiri sebelum ia siap menerima kemuliaan yang sangat besar. Puncak kejayaan Israel atas tanah Kanaan dicapai olehnya. Melalui hidupnya, bangkit pula banyak pahlawan lain (triwira Daud dan pasukan elit beranggota 30 orang di bawah pimpinan mereka). Raja Daud juga membuat Tabernakel sederhana/Kemah bagi Tabut TUHAN, serta memaklumkan pujian & penyembahan bagiNya, tak putus 24 jam dalam 7 hari di sana (inisiatif pribadi, bukan perintah TUHAN)  setelah ia memerintah penuh atas suku Yehuda dan Israel.

Daud bin Isai adalah gambaran bahwa setiap orang berpotensi untuk menjadi pemimpin. Bayangkan, anak bungsu dari 8 bersaudara dengan tubuh paling kecil dan pekerjaan paling remeh – gembala domba. Kemungkinan ia tidak berasal dari keluarga kaya, berbeda dengan Saul yang memiliki banyak ternak dan seorang bujang (pembantu).

Entah apa yang DIA lihat dari seorang remaja di kota kecil Betlehem yang setiap harinya berkutat dengan 2-3 ekor domba serta gemar bermain kecapi. Kedatangan seorang nabi Samuelpun kurang menarik minatnya, sampai akhirnya ia harus dipanggil datang untuk menerima pengurapan raja (1Sam 16:11-13). Atau mungkin ia tidak terlalu dekat dan diperhitungkan Isai, sang ayah? Ada bagian mazmur (gubahan Daud) yang menyinggung tentang dilupakan orang tuanya, namun itu belum menjadi kepastian dan bukan menjadi halangan di mata TUHAN.

Sebuah kesadaran muncul sejak ia menerima panggilan dan pengurapan. Ya, ia mulai menggali Torah (kitab Musa) dan menaikkan lagu-lagu yang baru (psalm) sehubungan tujuan hidupnya yang besar itu (speak with a different languange according to a new life purpose). Untuk abang-abang Daud, ia tetap dianggap si bungsu penggembala domba (1Sam 17:28-29). Mereka tidak mengakui pengalaman dan pelatihan Daud di padang yang kadang bergelut dengan singa ataupun beruang demi mempertahankan nyawa ‘beberapa teman kesayangannya’ itu (1Sam 17:34-37).

Daud remaja lebih terkenal dengan motorik halus/seni musik. Ia berkesempatan melihat secuil gambaran masa depannya di istana raja karena talenta bermusik rohaninya (1Sam 16:14-23). Hamba raja Saul mengenali Daud lebih daripada ayah dan saudara lelakinya dengan memberikan gambaran (laporan intelijen) yang tepat (1Sam 18:16).

Sampai waktu pertempuran dengan Goliat, hanya hamba Saul dan nabi Samuel yang menyadari keberadaan Daud. Pertempuran dengan Goliat adalah ‘tes naik kelas’ karena lawannya itu besar, memakai jubah pelindung, dan penuh intimidasi – berbeda dengan binatang buas yang jadi lawan-lawannya selama ini. Literatur menggambarkan bahwa Goliat dari Filistin, raksasa itu adalah seorang pendekar yang terbiasa berperang/terlatih/champion (1Sam 17:4, 23).

Daud mengetahui dengan pasti segala resiko menghadapi Goliat, namun sifat berani dan percayanya pada TUHAN telah membuat ia mengajukan diri sebagai satu-satunya relawan yang tampil untuk membela kehormatan bangsanya, sedangkan raja Saul memilih untuk bersembunyi menunggu kabar di kemahya (1 Samuel 17).

Lesson Learned:

1. Receive the Calling.

2. Renew mindset & attitude.

3. Raise with all talents by develop them.

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Daily Experiences, Tahukah Anda?

What Love is All About

Married or not… you should read this.
AVMEDIA NOVEMBER 17, 2013
INSPIRING

When I got home that night my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking about divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

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Someone that going trough in the hardship, deserve to sharing glory of your life on the top of the mountain

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

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True Love will never fail

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

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Divine Toughts

Tetap Fokus pada Panggilan Tertinggi

Mengejar Kesuksesan dalam Kekayaan.

1 Tim 6: 6-21
Dengan membaca Firman TUHAN di atas, fokus saya kembali pada tujuan (esensi) awal.. yaitu Blessed to bless!

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Beban yang berat itu malam ini terangkat karena akhirnya tersadar kalau semuanya ini bukanlah tentang saya semata (seperti kisah Yusuf yg mendahului Yakub ke Mesir). Jadi biarlah DIA yg menuntun dan menopang di setiap langkah, sambil saya terus melakukan semua yg terbaik dengan giat diiringi mazmur (nyanyian) bagi DIA!

Tidak ada yang salah dengan menjadi kaya atau berpengetahuan. Tetapi fokus hidup yang salah akibatnya akan membuat kita menangis di akhir cerita. Dan ini adalah sebagai pengingat bahwa saat berjalan dengan DIA setiap hari kita dapat beristirahat dengan tenang dan rileks utk esok hari (masa depan) yang cerah (Yeremia 29:11; Yoh 16:24).

All is well (3 idiots, the movie ;D)

Good night mates!
2016-04-28 (edited 2016-04-29)

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