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​Mata Lelaki.

Yang Muda VS Yang Dewasa.

Sore menjelang malam saya dan teman-teman satu kost terlibat perbincangan seputar lelaki, pria dengan fantasinya. Menurut teman-teman saya, lawan jenis kadang menyimpan rapat sebuah hasrat namun beberapa dari mereka tidak pemalu dan mengumbar pesona lewat geliat atau busana tertentu. Pada akhirnya kami sepakat bahwa hal-hal yang tabu baik untuk dibincangkan lewat kerangka berpikir yang sehat. Jika coba dipendam, hal itu akan mencari ‘jalan keluar’ lewat berbagai usaha yang kadang konyol (childish).

Secara pribadi, aspek kehidupan seputar hasrat dan cinta serta beragam sisi yang menyertainya adalah indah, walau dalam beberapa kondisi khusus diperlukan komunikasi terbatas.

Hal menggelitik yang menggulirkan tulisan ini adalah kejadian minggu siang di lantai 4 food court, mall seputar Kuningan. Seorang pria muda baru saja datang. Ia celingak-celinguk, terlihat bingung mencari tempat duduk. Bukannya tidak ramah, adapun saya sedang terlibat pembicaraan serius dan kebetulan hanya kenal sekilas dengannya. Untuk seketika dia sempat berdiri tidak jauh dari meja kami. Sesekali matanya melirik pojokan meja dekat dinding kaca ruangan. Di sana duduk seorang wanita oriental yang mengenakan baju longgar tanpa lengan. Setau saya, pria ini sudah memiliki pasangan, tapi sepertinya sedang lupa memakai ‘kaca mata kuda’ saat sang gadis tidak terlihat dalam area radarnya. Sayapun sekilas memperhatikan wanita muda itu sekitar 20 menit yang lalu. Saat itu saya dan rekan baru memulai pembicaraan serius seputar isu sosial. Wanita muda tadi tiba-tiba datang dan memilih duduk sendirian, tidak jauh dari kami. Ia lantas mojok terlihat sibuk dengan laptopnya.

Setelah perbincangan seputar lelaki malam Rabu, entah mengapa peristiwa 3 minggu lalu terlintas kembali…

Kelemahan dan kekuatan lelaki pertama-tama mungkin memang di matanya. Pria dianugerahi cara berpikir logis lewat apa yang dilihatnya langsung. Namun petaka yang samapun berlaku jika mata tidak dijaga. Untuk tingkat lanjut beberapa pria dianugerahi ‘vision’, kemampuan melihat masa depan dan hal-hal besar.

Alkisah seorang budak di Mesir disuguhi pemandangan indah nyonya dari tuannya, mungkin hampir setiap hari. Pada suatu kesempatan, di ruangan itu hanya ada mereka berdua, tidak ada halangan untuk berbuat bebas. Lagipula sang nyonyalah yang datang untuk menawarkan diri. Hebatnya, sesaat kemudian sang budak memilih untuk kabur. Karena sang nyonya kesal telah ‘ditolak’ permintaannya, si budak difitnah melakukan pelecehan fisik. Kehormatan moral sebenarnya akan terlihat dari sikap dan keputusan di saat yang kritis. Pada banyak cerita hidup hal itu melampaui status sosial, strata pendidikan, dan kekayaan.

Perbincangan kami tentang mentalitas pria dan kesetiaannya memang ambigu. Kaum lelaki dilahirkan alamiah dengan potensi besar untuk menyalurkan hasrat dalam sekejap. Manusia pertama bernama Adam di Taman Eden secara tersirat adalah contoh yang gamblang. Dilihatnya buah di tengah taman itu sedap & tergigit. Ia lantas menghabiskan sisanya tanpa banyak komentar. Saat diminta tanggungjawab oleh Sang Empunya Pohon Buah Terlarang ia lantas melempar kesalahan penuh pada sang penggigit buah pertama.

Godly man.. pursueing Godly principal

Mungkin benar seloroh teman akademisi bahwa bahwa kebanyakan Adam dengan matanya itu ‘lambat dewasa’. Ia lupa bahwa semua keindahan yang dilihatnya tidak selamanya mulus terawat (temporary, need handling with care). Semua tindakan fisik menuntut tanggungjawab moral, semua hal fisik ada masa kadaluarsanya juga.

Tulisan ini bukan untuk menghakimi siapapun, sayapun bercermin sembari menulisnya. Namun sejujurnya sebagai pria utuh, siapapun lelaki perlu menginsyafi dirinya dalam melewati tahapan jiwa muda untuk kemudian menjadi dewasa. Sebelum kedewasaan itu menjadi penuh maka ia akan dikendalikan oleh mata jasmani yang hakekatnya selalu menuntut pemuasan segera. Muncul kemudian istilah puber kedua dan ketiga sebagai analogi ‘pembenaran’. Tidak heran banyak dari kami yang diam-diam tergelincir jatuh bahkan untuk pribadi yang berhikmat tinggi seperti raja Salomo (Sulaiman) sekalipun.

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Daily Experiences, Sehat Itu Menyenangkan, Tahukah Anda?

Special Needs Kid

A Strange Physical Phenomena Nowadays.

Meet Jack, a 2nd grade student. He often bite his fingers nail. When getting stressed (mad), he’ll pluck his hair (a certain wound spot could see on his head). He’s a special needs kid that strugling with his eye sight (minus) & autism.

Kids are treasures in the future.

I’m living in a boarding house with other teachers and we had a discussion about kids nowadays that wearing minus glassess in a very young age. Few of them also having down syndrom or other special needs cases. Some parents that having special needs kid sending them to school and have big expectation it will solved by teachers. Others even don’t really care to involve by giving them to their nanny (kids assistant).

In some articles (analysis), this sad phenomena happening caused by a genetic factor. Parents that having minus sight more than 5 usually having kids wearing glasses from the age of 3. Autism possibly an impact of chemical or hormonal process. Fastfood industry had bring a huge effect for obesity in developing & modern country.

My crucial point is, a kid like Jack deserve a chance to experience the bright side of this world. But for gain that goal he will going to experience an extra effort, since he is including to the special need group. While people need to evaluate about the way they live, for support a better generation there’s a breaktrough need to be done in our perspective. With parents, physoclogist, mentor/tutor hand in hand supporting kids like Jack since early age, we could see a bright side in the future made by them.

In our first Elementary Chapel, in front those kids Pastor Sammy explained about how we were created in GOD’s image. It’s mean HIS character well established in us. We only need to express them in our daily life. Be kind, obey, & diligent are 3 main examples that relevant for teachers & students. At first I wondered if a kid like Jack could ecperience it.

Eating together at canteen, a lovely view by their sincere.

Infact, Jack is a good student. As long he’s in the good mood, he’ll follow my teaching and doing those task that I’ve given. Luckyly Jack is studying with other kind kids in the class. I told them to share each other and helping Jack in daily activity. Jack also need to learn how to trust his friend when they are coming to help with sincere.

Human were created with heart. As long we gain their trust then everything’s gonna be ok. We were created to be social beside our individualism (uniq). Let us heal each other by get to know better on each other.

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Divine Toughts, Tahukah Anda?

Overcomer

Grateful with imperfect condition is the true meaning of Perfection.

“I was in the deepest pit of my life but Jesus lifted me out.” – Mandisa.

If you are in need of renewed purpose and a sense of worth, watch Madisa’s incredible testimony and be encouraged that we serve a God who wants to give you those very things. 

Read more: http://share.cbn.com/5pmr6

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Daily Experiences, Tahukah Anda?

What Love is All About

Married or not… you should read this.
AVMEDIA NOVEMBER 17, 2013
INSPIRING

When I got home that night my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking about divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

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Someone that going trough in the hardship, deserve to sharing glory of your life on the top of the mountain

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

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True Love will never fail

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

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